Chew On It - Getting Along

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BY Richard Chew, Founder
Wednesday Nov 30, 2016
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Why can't we just get along?

It disturbs me that there's so much conflict in our world. So much so in fact that I decided to do some research into why it is that people can't seem to get along with each other. Here's what I discovered:

When we have a problem, it typically leads to insecurities, anxiety and conflict and our default mode is to be reactive – we respond emotionally rather than rationally.

The reactive mind appears to go back to our fear response from the early vertebrae days where it was either fight, flee or freeze. In other words, a reactive response is a protective mechanism. It is not a conscious choice and when we are reactive, we aren't using our rational mind, or as my counsellor would describe it, our wise mind. If we choose to respond with a wise mind, where we reflect, relate and relax, we are able to achieve a calm state where our mind is clear, and rational thinking is possible. In this headspace, we are able to be compassionate and tolerant and see things from a positive perspective. This sets us on a path to finding a solution, which results in peace and harmony in life.

Now let's think about the silly season, where family is involved. We don't choose our family members. And while it's easy to deal with the ones we get along with, the ones we don't get along with can be a real challenge. Fortunately, we have choices when it comes to these members of the family – we can always choose to turn away from negative emotions and engage our wise mind when interacting with them.

Here's what I try to do:
With the people I love and get along with, I laugh a lot and let them know that I love and appreciate them. With the people I love, but do not get along with, I stay civil and maintain a safe distance – physically and metaphorically. Above all, I watch my words and avoid being sarcastic, although I know that my provocative sense of humour still needs some work!

Thank you

Elixr has become a community that is an important part of many people's lives and I wish to express my thanks and appreciation to all involved – our members who support our little world, and our wonderful staff, instructors and teachers who make it such a special place to be.

I am privileged that my fitness world now encompasses body, mind and spirit, and I thank you for being part of it.

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